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Well I've never had sex before, which is kind of strange for a 21 year old college student I guess. I'm not a person who will just do it to get it over with. It has to be someone I completely love and trust and I think I've finally found that person.
Another reason I haven't had sex is that I'm completely embarrassed about my chub rub. My inner thighs aren't pretty and smooth with an even color tone like I like to imagine most people's are. Any suggestions to help this?

I've also never had sex and im 19 so yeah

But i also never had a boyfriend or a first kiss


I have the same problem, my inner thighs are really dark.
Maybe Bio-oil can help.

I know what you're saying, girl, but believe me, most people's thighs rub together and they tend to have some coloration to it. I had read a long time ago about using Lemon to lighten dark spots but I hadn't really researched on it. It is natural, non expensive and it won't harm your skin So here are two links that tell you a bit of how to prepare a mask and apply to help with the "bleaching" of these dark spots.

1) www.ehow.com/how_4492880_even-out-skin-tone-naturally.html

2) http://www.orble.com/natural-ways-to-light...your-skin-tone/

Both talk about applying it to the face since it is the usual place people want to remove spots from, but it really is something you can apply any part of your body. Hope this helps!

Lemon juice is an acid, and therefore it works as a light peeling which can lighten skin, and other things lightly.

Though dark spots on the inner thigh are often a result of chub rub, but can also be caused by higher levels of testosterone, especially in PCOS women, and sadly if its caused by that, are really hard to get rid of.

I'm really fairskinned (like so fairskinned that the lightest foundation can be to dark for my skin), but i'm also "suffering" from darker spots. I'm gonna say "suffering", 'cause it really don't bother me. And I've never met a guy who'd comment on it, in all the years i've been sexually active.

My experience is, are you that far along as to almost be having sex, then it is not dark spots, stretch marks or sagging breasts he/she focuses on, but you whole person/and the fireworks off setting sex you're gonna have, he/she is keeping his head(s) on.

And if he/she focuses on stretch marks, dark spots or any other insecureties you might have, then, in my humble opinion, he/she isn't a man/woman you ought to bother having sex with, because then his/her priorities are so so so wrongly set

Edit: brainscattering gathered.

Edited by Beelzebufess - 15/9/2012, 12:40

I'm all for things that make you feel more comfortable in your own skin, but your skin is just that. We need to remember that being a part of who we are (anyone, this applies too) means there will be things we don't like, aren't comfortable with, don't think other people have, etc etc.. And I super agree with Beelz... if your partner has issue with your body, he/she is in it for the wrong reasons. But being comfortable in your own skin/body/mind space is super important... never easy, and always forever and a day worth trying to work on things about yourself you don't like so you become more comfortable and confident, but we are who we are and, honestly .. we rock

Yeah I've never had sex either...really want to though. lol. I just need to find the right person. And even though I want to stay "thick" I'd like to get rid of some of my rolls before I let anyone see me naked. Just a personal thing. Also, I'm really self conscious about my stretchmarks.

I have sooo many stretchmarks too - arms, thighs, stomach, sides, and unfortunately on my breasts as well. :/ I can't do much about them, and fortunately they do get lighter, but it still doesn't look nice.

I'm 18 and just got into my first relationship and I totally know where you guys are coming from. I used to be so ashamed of my body, from the rolls to the stretch marks all over. I never thought I'd be comfortable enough to even get in a relationship. But the guy I'm with makes me feel so comfortable, and I've been on the long journey to self love so that definitely helps! We've had sex and it wasn't awkward for me or anything, because I know he likes me for me, and he likes my body so I know I don't have to be scared he's gonna be grossed out. I could actually spend that time enjoying sex instead of worrying, which is awesome! It's really amazing to open up to someone and let them see you and know that there's nothing wrong with your body, even with all your stretch marks, some rolls you would rather not have and dark spots on your thighs, you're still beautiful. I'm so happy at this point in my life, I love myself (on most days, I still have bad days) and I think in the end it all boils down to how you feel about yourself.

It's totally true. If you are in a caring relationship, stretch marks or rolls should not be an issue. If they are, move on. Know that this is your partners issue and not yours. No two people are alike and everyone is different in their own beautiful way. Even the best looking person, not matter who they are, has things they don't like about themselves.

I also am a firm believer in self love. Do it, ladies! How can you communicate to your partner what you like if you don't know yourself. And if you can't talk to your partner about sex and the mechanics of it all, you're not ready. That said, every time you have sex won't be glorious. Some of it will just be bad.